SOULMATES 34 years and recounting.

Here are the prompts for this week’s Writer’s Workshop: 

1.  Write a post based on the word soulmates. 
2. Write a post in exactly 8 sentences. 
3. Post photos of your Halloween costume or your (grand)child(ren)’s costume(s). 
4. Make a list of things you have planned for November. 
5. List the top ten songs that you never want to hear again, and why. 
6. Write an essay entitled “Giving a child an unusual name is a bad idea.”

I chose #1. I decided to write an Acrostic essay about my soulmate and best friend who is also my wife of 65 years.  (We've only completed 26 so far.)

Suited to one another? I met Amy in the fall of 1990. I was 25 and she was 21.  I was returning to the WIU campus after having to take the semester off for academic reasons.  She had just graduated from Northern Illinois University that Spring and was starting graduate school in Macomb. 

Our paths meet. She decided to go to the year's first large-group meeting of Inter-Varsity Christian Fellowship which met on the 2nd floor of the student union.  I believe the meeting was held in the Fox Room.  A majority of our meetings were held in that particular room.

Unbeknownst to me at the time, our meeting at the Fox Room (if it was the Fox Room), was not the first time Amy encountered me.  She had gotten to the Student Union early that night and was studying at the Hardees when she spotted me waiting in line to order. She thought to herself, self, that the guy in the ball cap stroking his chin and pondering what type of Hardee’s  fare he will consume tonight is just the kind of guy who is likely to be at this meeting tonight.

Lisle, Illinois is where Amy said she was from when I introduced myself to her at the I-V meeting.  It turned out her hunch was right I was one of the students on the exec committee for our chapter and introduced myself to all the newcomers that night.  It also turned out that Lisle was where my grandparents lived.

Many things in common. Besides Lisle, it turned out that Amy and I shared quite a few similarities.  We were both from families with 5 children.  Our fathers were both the oldest of 7 children.  We were both raised Catholic and we both became disillusioned with that faith when our Parish priests came into our Parochial schools in 7th grade to tell us that not all of the Bible was true.

A Friendship quickly blossomed. We were inseparable.  Because I did not have a car at school and because we lived in suburbs near each other we drove back to the Chicago area on holidays and vacations.  We both enjoyed watching and playing sports and so many other things.  Whether at school or back at home we spent most of our free time together.

Time Passed as it always does.  She was the closest friend I ever had.  But life outside of university beckoned us both and we began to make our way in the wide world.  We talked on the phone,  exchanged letters and tapes over the years,  and spent as much time together when we were in the same time zone. Many people began to realize that there was something between us beyond friendship.  If there was we were oblivious to that notion.  

Eventually, we realized what others had already figured out.  We loved each other, and one night in February of 1997 on AOL of all things, I got the memo that the Godly wife I had almost given up on finding was the same person who had sized me up at Hardees all those years before,

Soulmates? Certainly, but the best kind. Best friends who fell in love and never stopped being best friends.

Thanks to John Holton for hosting the Writers Workshop at The Sound of One Hand Typing.

Who I'm Not voting for in the 2024 Presidential Election and Why not.

 The U.S. Presidential election is a week away, and I wanted to explain how I am voting in it. This is not an endorsement; I don't expect anyone to vote like I am. However, I do feel that I am making a logical and sensible decision, given the choices before me.  

If you were not aware, the election is between Democratic candidate Vice President Kamala Harris and former President Donald Trump. In the state of Illinois, where I reside, one other candidate is also listed on the ballot.

I have quite a bit of history when it comes to voting in elections.  I turned 18 in 1982 and voted officially in that election and voted in my first Presidential election in 1984.  Before that, I had voted in 2 mock elections, one in 1976 at Grove Jr. High School where I  voted for Gerald Ford over Jimmy Carter, and one in 1980  at Elk Grove High School where I voted for Carter over Ronald Reagan.  Incidentally, I voted for Carter for the same reason I voted against Carter: I thought that the incumbent candidate needed more time to complete their work.  On both these occasions my views were in the minority. 

My procedures for choosing who to vote for have evolved since those mock elections days.  I take the responsibility to vote very seriously.  Initially, I try to pick between the majority party candidates, and if neither stands out to me as the best choice I may vote for an independent or write-in candidate. I believe one time, four years ago, when I found no candidate worthy of my vote,  I just skipped down to the next race in the election.

The first thing I try to determine is whether the candidates are credible.  That is to say are they believable?  Will they do what they say they are going to do?  It may surprise some people that this is the first thing that I try to determine.  Why not look at what the candidates say they believe and vote on the one I agree with the most?  Why not? Because, if the candidate is not credible it doesn't matter whether I agree with what they are saying if I don't believe they can or will do it.  

Among the two major party candidates, there is only one credible candidate and that is Vice President Harris.  When I read the issues page of her website I believed her when she said these are the issues that are important to her. So, she is credible in that regard.  

Unfortunately, there is very little that Donald Trump says that I believe.  To me, he is not a credible candidate.  He says that he won the last election, In fact, 3 minutes into his Jan 6th, 2020 speech at the Capitol Mall, he stated "We won this election, and we won it in a landslide".  This was never a credible statement.  Trump has been creating a false narrative since he first declared in 2015 that he was seeking high office and that the only way he could lose is if other people cheated. So naturally when he lost the election it was because of massive fraud. 

There are very few things that Trump has said that I have believed.  Most of his few credible statements are not positive.  He said recently that if reelected he will consider arresting his opposition.  As scary as that image is and how undemocratic it seems, I can totally believe that he would consider that.  When he was caught on a hot mike saying he wanted to force himself on women, I found that credible.  Morally reprehensible, yet credible.  When as President, he maligned the countries that were sending us the most immigrants, I truly believed that he could be so mean-spirited and uncaring.  Unfortunately, all those statements match to what has already been revealed by his character. When he makes positive claims, his character, and his history of previously false claims, make it virtually impossible for me to believe a word he says.  

This is why when he claimed to be pro-life when running in 2016 I did not believe him.  When he actually did appoint conservative judges and justices I was surprised.  Those appointments did lead to Roe vs. Wade being overturned in 2022. So you might think that I would now find Trump credible at least on this issue.  No, Trump has backpedaled on his abortion views for the 2024 election and so I can't find him credible on that issue either.  I chalk it up more to political expediency than anything else.  

In most Presidential elections since I started voting in 1984 there have been (in my opinion)  2 major party credible candidates running against each other.  The only exceptions are the aforementioned Donald Trump and Bill Clinton.  In Clinton's case, I never found him to be a trustworthy candidate.  

If there are 2 credible candidates I don't then try to decide who's more credible.  I decide who's more worthy of my vote.  Only credible candidates are worthy of anyone's vote, and then I am free to decide from who's left.  

The Republican Party has done the country a great disservice over the last 3 election cycles by not putting a credible candidate on the Presidential ballot,  Fortunately for them, most voters look for a candidate who purports to match their views first and then judge the character of that candidate.  This puts the voter in a difficult situation by looking for candidates who agree with them they open themselves up to be maneuvered by master operators like Clinton and Trump.  

In 1992, it seemed like the Republicans saw Clinton for who he was, but the Democrats failed to grasp that. They were enamored with the idea of putting the first Democrat in the White House since Carter won in '76.  In 2016 despite a field of credible Republican candidates, the Republicans reimagined themselves in the worst possible way picking a bully who could win and make populist gains at the risk of the party's soul.  

I think it might be easy to think that if there is only one credible candidate that is the candidate you should vote for. But this has simply not been true for me.   I could have gladly supported Joe Biden years ago when he was a Pro-Life Democrat, especially over Trump.   Biden decided to believe that a Pro-Life Democrat could not elect his President and changed his stance so he could get the job he always wanted.  Biden abandoned his beliefs for the expediency of office for the same motives that the Republicans abandoned their integrity to embrace Trump.  In the 2016 and 2020 elections, this put me in quite a pickle.  I didn't believe that anyone should vote for Trump and I could not bring myself to vote for Hillary Clinton or Joe Biden. While I found both these candidates credible, my conscience would not let me support them.

People would tell me you must choose the lesser of two evils.  I would say why should I choose evil?   Also, if I had to choose the lesser of two evils in those elections it would not have been Trump.  I'm not even sure that Trump would ever admit that he was the lesser of two anything. "People are always telling me Don you're so evil.  Frankly, If I was going to be evil I'd be amazing at it."

Adam Kizinger made an impassioned speech at the 2024 DNC urging his fellow Republicans to vote for Harris in the election,  It is tempting but the truth is that the 2024 election has me in the same pickle. I won't consider Trump and when I do consider Harris, I can't get past her pro-choice positions.  It's frustrating because I would have gladly supported someone like Nikki Haley or Kizinger and will probably end up writing one of their names on my ballot.  I'm not picky, I just want to be able to choose between two credible candidates and the Republican party keeps on robbing me of that opportunity.  

A 12 Sentence Post (which is better than no post at all).

 It is Fall, and I am in my usual  decline of posting here at Leap of Dave. Lately, when I have posted,  I've just been putting out OPV (Other People's Videos) instead of mixing in my own content. It's not that I don't have things to write about, there are plenty of post ideas that I am wanting to get out there; it's not even about lack of time, it's more like I need a jump start to get this blog churning again.  So, for that much needed jump start, I went to my blog roll and saw that John Holton of The Sound of One Hand Typing  put out this week's Writing Workshop prompts. 

Along with trying to write this post using 12 sentences only, I will also use another of his prompts to tell you why I use Google Chrome.  I am not a Chrome snob by any means it is just something that I am used to, it doesn't try to invade my computer like Microsoft Edge does, and I never really got into Firefox. 

As a long term substitute teacher at a middle school my job is both varied and predictable.  For the past few days I've been subbing for 7th grade teachers.  Our 6th graders last year were a bit of a challenging bunch, and I have been glad to see that many of them have matured since last year.  Many, however, is not most, and the past few days while not difficult, have been eventful.  

Thanks again to John Holton, for helping me to have something to write about today.  I also appreciate John for reminding me that Weird Al Yankovic is turning 65 today, making him exactly 4 years and 11 months older than myself. 

Cole Kmet has a big Day for the Bears in London

Sunday was not just another home game for the Chicago Bears. First of all the game started at 8:30 A.M. Central Time which is very early for a Sunday match up. It started this early because the "home" game was played in London, England. The Bears defeated the Jacksonville Jaguars 35-16 on Sunday. It was also an unusual game for Bears TE Cole Kmet. Kmet whose Dad played for the Bears among other teams but never played in an actual game grew up in the NW suburbs of Chicago and played football and baseball for St. Viator before going to Notre Dame for college. Cole Kmet hits HR for St. Viator in 2016 Sectional game

Here is Kmet in an interview in his time with ND. Here is footage of Kmet while playing with the Irish.  

 Kmet was drafted by the Bears in the 2nd round of the 2020 NFL Draft.

   

C.K. is kind of a Superman for the Bears.  In addition to playing starting Tight End, He is also the emergency long snapper.  A long snapper is a specialized center who snaps the ball on punts, field goals, and extra points.  The Bears usual long snapper suffered a knee injury in the first half of Sundays game.  That meant that when Kmet scored 2 touchdowns in the 2nd quarter he had to snap the ball on the subsequent plays for the Bears extra points.  

Click here to see Kmet's first touchdown on You Tube.

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