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Monday, November 11, 2024
Veterans of Grief
I'm sure I have written a post like this before with a similar title. I am taking another stab at the subject. My youngest brother Keith was born on Nov 11th 1970 aka Veterans Day. . This is the 54th anniversary of his birth. I was born in September of 1964, so I was already 6 years old when he was born.
. Keith's last Veteran's Day was 16 years ago when he turned 38. He died 5 months later in an Elgin nursing home when I was 44. Since then I've turned 60 and he's perpetually 38. Keith loved math and I'm pretty sure if he was still around he'd call me up today to announce that he had now been alive for 90% of my lifetime. The truth is that he was on;y alive 63.33% of my lifetime time and that number goes down each year I outlive him.
Now Keith would want me to provide a more accurate accounting of that number by factoring in the 5 months between his 38th birthday and that day in April of 2009 when he shuffled off this mortal coil. Let's be real, Keith would want me to calculate the percentage down to at least the day, factoring in the leap days as well. He probably wouldn't be satisfied with even that and want it down to the last minute.
But That's not what I would want. What I would want of course, is that his multiple health problems were all resolved and that he was here with us celebrating his full deck plus 2 jokers (that's 54th please try to keep up) birthday with us. What I would want is that his children now in their 20s would still have their Dad with them instead of hardly remembering him or not remembering him at all. What I would want, is that instead of struggling to recall his legendary dumb jokes, there would be another 15 1/2 years worth of them to smile and nod at. But I did not get what I wanted. Instead, I got grief. Now Veterans Day means more than just Keith's birthday to me. It reminds me that I'm a veteran, a veteran of grief.
I'm going to spend the rest of this post unpacking the last sentence of the previous paragraph. When Keith died Amy and I had been attending a small group at our church for only a few weeks. We knew the leader of the small group pretty well because he was the children's ministry pastor and all our children were in the children's ministry at the time and we were both volunteering there. So when he showed up at Keith's visitation I wasn't too surprised. What did surprise me, however, was that the couple whose house the small group met at came to the visitation. We had just met them a few weeks before. They didn't have children, and they didn't attend the same service as we did. It really meant a lot that he came. He explained to me that a few years before when his father had died, he had a similar experience. Some people he hardly knew came to the funeral because they had lost someone and knew how important it was having people there not only to pay respect to the person they lost but to also be there for those who had lost someone. Both the couple who came to Keith's visitation and the people who had gone to his Dad's funeral had one thing in common, they were veterans of grief.
When I think of a war veteran I think of someone who's been through something devastating and life-altering and has been permanently changed by it. Grief has that same effect on you. There is something else I've learned about veterans they try to be there for each other. There is a camaraderie, a family bond. It's a community that doesn't require serving in the same unit or even the same war. The same could be said about a veteran of grief. I don't know if this is true of all veterans be it war, grief, or something else. But as I dealt with losing Keith, empathy for those encountering the same thing grew in me. I was never one to shy away from the funerals of people I knew, but I started gravitating to the funerals of family members of people I knew. As a veteran of grief, I have been able to comfort people and try to help in tangible ways as people begin their journeys with loss and grief.
Keith is often front and center in my heart and mind during these times. I have not yet lost someone closer than a sibling and have not experienced what it is like to lose a child, a parent, or a spouse. I have done my best to comfort those who have lost more significant people in the time since Keith's passing. A dear friend lost his father and wife in short order. I have to be honest I can't imagine losing Amy. I know it would devastate me completely and while I know God would bring me through it, I know it's just a drop in the bucket in comparison to losing Keith. Amy herself lost both her parents within a few years of each other. It broke my heart to see her "orphaned" knowing that her loss was far greater than mine. Yet knowing how God has helped me through this lesser loss of Keith has helped inform me how I can minister to others as they become more experienced with grief.
I still miss Keith, especially on days like today. Tomorrow my remaining brother and I head over to Keith's house to help his widow with some practical needs. It will be bittersweet just a day after his birthday. All my siblings have tried to look out for our sister-in-law and our niece and nephew and I think we would all say that we wished we could do more. In sports veteran players often act as a surrogate coaches to rookies and other new team members. Grief is not a team that anyone chooses to play for. Isaiah 53:3 prophesies about Jesus describing Him as a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Jesus, His word, and His people have equipped me as a veteran of grief. I'm not sure if I'm paying forward, or pointing backward but regardless of the direction I'm so glad to try to be there for others when grief has them upside down.
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Saturday, April 29, 2023
Playful Math Carnival #164
Welcome to the 164th edition of the Playful Math Education Carnival
I am Dave your host for this month. This is my first time hosting this carnival and I'm not quite sure what I'm doing. But in true growth mindset lingo, I don't know what I'm doing yet. As Dr. Teeth says in The Muppet Movie, "There ain't nothin' to it but to do it."
Thanks to the incomparable Denise Gaskins for giving me a chance to host. Before we get into gear just a little bit more about me ...
I started this blog 14 years ago back when I was a home educator and this blog was named Home School Dad. During that time I was a frequent participant and host of the Carnival of Homeschooling. I loved that carnival and especially loved hosting it. I also loved all the great math ideas I would see in Blogs like Denises.
When I was a home educator, I would often teach math games classes at our local home school cooperative. 5 years ago when I became a substitute teacher I would love to see all the great ideas that the teachers I was subbing for and all the wonderful resources that are out there.
This winter I became a building sub in my district. When I'm not in for another teacher I go from class to class and am an extra set of hands, this usually will happen during Math and ELA instruction and I was hoping to share a lot of the games and activities the teachers use in today's post.
Unfortunately, almost immediately into the semester I started subbing for the P.E. teacher for almost 2 months, and now I'm subbing in a special-ed classroom for the rest of the year, so I haven't gleaned as many ideas as I hoped I would. I think though I have assembled some good stuff for this month's edition. So let's give it a go.
Remembering Our Past
Big shout out to 1001 Math Problems for hosting Carnival # 163.
She began by telling us some info about the number 163 so I'll start by giving you a little info about 164.
164 hours is about a week. In fact, if you take 164 hours (6 days 20 hours) and add 164 minutes (2 hours 44 minutes then add 164 seconds (2 minutes 44 seconds) you would have a total of 6 days 22 hours 46 minutes and 44 seconds which would be approximately 1:15 minutes less than a week.
164 is what I call an A square B number. It is the product of 41 times 2 squared.
164 is the 22nd A squared B number.
Numbermatics has some more information on good old 164 entitled Number 164 - Facts about the integer
How Many Days Have I Lived?
Here is an idea I use as a parlor trick but have also been bringing into the classroom. This can be done on the whiteboard or smart board with one individual or you could have each student do it on their own whiteboard, paper, or computer
First, have the student write their date of birth month date, and year.
Our example student was born ten years ago 4/28/13
The next thing I have the students do is write in one column 4-year increments from their birthday until the day before their birthday 4 years later.
Our example student:
4/28/13 - 4/27/17
4/28/13 - 4/27/21
Once you cannot add any more increments of 4 years then you go by single years
4/28/21 - 4/27/22
4/28/22 - 4/27/23
Hopefully, while you are explaining this you'll get a student or two who will tell you that they don't have to do all that, the birthday person just simply needs to multiply their age times 365 and that will show how many days they've lived.
I will go ahead and have them make the calculation but then I'll go back and have them write out a 2nd column showing how many days they actually lived in a 4 year period:
4/28/13 - 4/27/17 1461
4/28/13 - 4/27/21 1461
4/28/21 - 4/27/22 365
4/28/22 - 4/27/23 365
I will then have them add the 2nd column up and compare it to their calculation. (1,462 to 1,460). At some point, a student will realize the first calculation did not account for leap days. I would then ask is this how many days our birthday friend has lived? I will then remind them that they lived today so they have lived 1.463 days.
Movies and Math
I have spent most of this month blogging about movies for the A to Z Challenge.
Over at Mashup Math, they posted 10 Best Math Movies For All Ages. This list included my H entry for the challenge, Hidden Figures.
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Katherine Johnson - One of the Nasa computers featured in Hidden Figures |
April 11th was my 25th wedding anniversary
On April 11th 2020 mathemetician , John Conway died of complications to Co-vid 19. The above referenced link to April 11th,1936 contains this quote which I think is apropos to a Playful Math Carnival :
...You get surreal numbers by playing games. I used to feel guilty in Cambridge that I spent all day playing games, while I was supposed to be doing mathematics. Then, when I discovered surreal numbers, I realized that playing games IS mathematics.
Denise Gaskins of Denise Gaskin's Let's Play Math presents Thinking Thursday: Invent A Game 3.
Her journaling prompt about variations of tic-tac-toe got me thinking of other pen-and-paper games like the dot game. I did some research and learned about a game called Chomp.
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By Lord Belbury - Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=86379139 |
I'm sure that all of you out there are probably more familiar with it than I was., but just in case here is a video describing the gameplay.
- The first player chomped 1/3 of the pieces leaving 8 left.
- The 2nd player might chomp 1/4 of the remaining pieces leaving 6 left.
- The first player would then chomp 1/3 and 4 would remain.
At this point if the second player then chomps 1/4th of the pieces he will eventually win since their opponent will have no choice but to chomp 1/3 allowing the second player to chomp 1/2 and the first player will lose.
We have another magic square for you!
— EarlyFamilyMath (@EarlyFamilyMath) April 25, 2023
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Cindy at Our Journey Westward shares An Abstract Art And Living Math Activity Inspired by Kandinsky
Going to bring it on home and end with this link from last year from Sarah at Math = Love. 52 Fun End Of Year Activities For Math Class.
I've enjoyed hosting for the first time. Next time I won't sign up for my busiest month of the year and I will start preparing much earlier than I did, Next month's carnival will be at Nature Study Australia
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